Wendy's Fabulous and 40!
Top- selling singer-
composer Wendy Matthews has a new album out "Beautiful View" and
begins a national tour next month. When not on the road, she divides her
time between the rainforest of the North Coast of NSW and Sydney.
When I turned 40 it was quite nerve-racking leading up to the big day. I
felt really good about it. At forty I'm much more settled and happier in my
own skin and feel much more in control. Now I know my priorities. The things
that last like dear friends and staying true to yourself. One of my biggest
turning points was when I discovered that Australia is home. I grew up in
Canada and lived in Los Angeles and other cities before coming here in 1983.
I was with my family in Montreal earlier this year, and visiting my father
in Vancouver, when I realised Canada was no longer home, Australia is. Its
where my friends are, the bulk of my work is and where I've found real
contentment. At first it was unsettling to discover this. I felt torn
between where I grew up and my family was and where my life is now. Then it
became a relief. It is wonderful to finally know where you want to be. I'd
always wanted a piece of land to plant things and watch them grow. Now I
have it - a patch of rainforest on the North Coast where I have a Sioux
teepee.
One of the great things about being 40 is living in the moment. I write
about it on my new album with my song Right Now. For years I made
decisions based on some perceived outcome. Now I trust my instincts. If
something feels right, I go with it, if it doesn't I get out. At 40, I feel
lighter, younger and much clearer. When I was 20, 40 seemed a long way off:
I always thought I'd have kids by now. In my 30's I felt a lot more
biologically on the edge than I do now. Its been like a gentle letting go.
But my friends have kids that I see all the time. As far as looking after
myself, these days I am much better at it. I have a Border Collie, Bear, who
gets me out running on the beach each morning. I eat fresh foods and don't
drink or smoke. I love sleep and I also make sure I have time for myself.
© The Australian Women's
Weekly Magazine
August 2001.